This list goes from the not so bad to the worst characteristics females have that push men away or ruin their relationships. I find these reasons to personally be why men weren’t interested in me when I was younger. These characteristics they were looking for I didn’t have. We think it’s okay to be this way but it isn’t fair to anyone, especially you.
1. You’re Not Confident
There’s something about the lady who walks down the street with her head held high, shoulders back and dressed well where she makes men turn their head. She floods the streets with her confidence and that attracts men like pollen and bees. Confidence counts. Keep your confidence. Who wants to be with someone who doesn’t believe in themselves? I don’t know about you, but I don’t have time to boost your spirits up all the time.
2. You’re Unattractive
This may be harsh, but when was the last time you dressed up or straightened your hair? If you want to attract a man you have to primp yourself up, girl. If you want to keep a man, you need to still dress up. I mean, yes you can wear pajamas, but a man wants to show off his girl, not hide her! “He should love me no matter what!” He does honey, but eventually, when you look bad, you start telling him that. Over time, you convince the man that you really look bad, when you don’t!
3. You’re Attitude
If you’re always carrying a stank face no one will want to talk to you especially your man. If I see a woman and she has that look on her face, there is no way I am going up to her and I am most definitely not going to introduce myself. If you are already in a relationship. your attitude ruins anyone’s mood and no one is going to want to communicate with you. So change your face, and then we’ll talk.
You’re probably no this kind of girl but they are out there. They’re the ones where they work and keep all their money and spend it however, they like and have their man support them. Hey, in marriage it’s not your money it is our money. If you want to get married that’s the mentality you need. Take a bill up and help out. If your man doesn’t want you to help, pick something anyway. If you can’t convince him, save your money. Once you have enough, invest it!
5. You Don’t Understand the Needs of a Man
Like women, men have needs that keep them hooked to you. Don’t get me wrong, one man’s need for sex may be stronger than another man who would rather be admired. I bet you didn’t know that a man needs an attractive spouse almost as much as he needs domestic support or companionship when he plays basketball.
6. Too Many Friends
Friends create more damage than good. I have almost no friends, and my marriage is awesome for it. I spend all my time communicating and figuring things out with my man than with other people. If you’re the type that always has their phone blowing up it will make any man uncomfortable. They are wondering why you need your phone all the time, who are you texting or talking to and can I trust them? It’s not that he doesn’t trust you, but if he doesn’t know who your friends are and who you’re always giving your time to then how can he trust them. Shouldn’t he have your time?
7. You Give it Up ASAP
Yes, sex. You give it up quick girl. Men love the hunt, they will do almost anything to get with you and when they do eventually they’re going to want to have sex with you. If you give it up right away, that’s not a challenge. Men usually fall and stay with the woman that challenged them. How long you wait depends on how much respect you want.
8. Make the Man your Savior
This has to be the worst thing a woman can do. STOP making your man the reason for your existence. That ‘s not healthy and too high of a pedestal for a man to be on. No one is perfect. Your man will let you down eventually, over and over again. It’s a vicious cycle. Your man lets you down and he has to cheer you up. Something bad happened to you and now he has to make you happy. You’re driving that man crazy. You’re also going crazy. If your man messes up, move on and forgive. Like Elsa says, “Let it go!” If something happened to you, talk about it but he can’t change the way you look at things. Stop having your man save you because he won’t keep up. He can’t. It’s impossible.
When you see your man, make sure it helps to apologize for any of these things you have done and let’s move forward. You may make mistakes but that’s what forgiveness is for.
Have you done any of these things? Have you noticed some things that you can change to stop driving your man crazy? Let us know of any changes you’ve made and the results. Tweet your story to @Trudotworks on Twitter.
Yessenia Diaz has a background in graphic and web design but is also intrigued by writing and teaching. Yessenia created Tru.Works as an outlet for all her talents and continues collecting stories from around the world to share with people all across the interweb. Follow Yessenia on Instagram and her favorite, Twitter, @ythegreatdiaz.