The “is he cheating on you?” ad is everywhere. It’s all over blogs and the internet and I find it to be annoying that I need to be reminded about possible insecurities and uncertainties in my relationship. I find that I may struggle with the thought some other woman will come onto my spouse and I want to think the best of my husband and assume he’ll turn any and every woman down for me but this ad, “Are They Cheating on You” is just annoying because it makes me question my trust in my husband.
Now, what if you don’t trust your husband? Then what? What if you really don’t trust your wife when she leaves for work?
You gotta stop yourself right there. Now, I live in New York City. This city is full of beautiful women and handsome men. To top things off my husband works in the entertainment industry. Women work hard to keep their sex appeal and manage their looks. Oh, how I wish I could do the same with my looks but I just feel more confident looking more natural.
Anyway- trust, especially in your spouse is always believing the best about your spouse.
This idea is relieving and as you practice this idea you’ll soon begin to feel relief and less crazy about your wife or husband.
Crazy Suspicious Woman
There are times when my husband takes pictures with other women and puts them up on social media. This can drive any woman crazy. Now I come from a more ghetto background than my husband where he discusses things before he assumes the worst in people and to me a photo like that grinds my gears.
After 8 years of the same arguments, I have finally gotten tired of caring about what my husband was doing with all the time and with who.
I was tired of the social media stalking and inquiring about who certain women were in different profiles. I mean, I focused on women but in this day and age, your husband can also leave you for another man and so I asked about everyone.
Now my husband isn’t gay, and I know this but I share this example because this is how crazy someone, more so a woman, can get when you start to question your trust in your man.
How do we get ver this?
It’s not so hard.
Believing the Best
The first step to getting over the trust factor, and this goes for both men and women, is believing the best in each other. I’ll give an example of this.
When I find my husband lost on the internet on his phone I want to assume the best. I want to believe he’s messaging men about work and women about gigs or auditions. I assume he’s learning more about his craft and updating himself in social media news and entertainment.
I also put myself in my husband’s shoes and realize that I too can be caught watching the infinite roll of videos on Facebook. Ten minutes pass and I then realize I’ve been on Facebook too long!
When you believe the best in each other you tend to not bring up the fight and ask the crazy question of, “Who are you writing?” “Who called you?”
The crazy thing is that every answer my husband gave back to me was one that calmed me down. I always felt foolish for believing he was up to something. It was embarrassing.
And if they did cheat?
The other thought I keep in mind is what if my husband then cheated? What would happen? Is it the end of the world? Nope. I don’t want this of course but I knew that my life would move on.
Did I do my best as a wife? Yes, I did. Even though I’ve had my wrongs and haven’t been happy every day of our marriage I did my best. I gave him my all, and when I didn’t I told him. I was honest. When I lied I I eventually told him.
I have done my best as an encourager, lover, and I hope to my best especially in motherhood and our future together.
At then end of the day, I don’t want to worry about my husband’s fidelity. I rather spend that time making live, making memories, and eating snacks in bed together while watching Netflix!
Please tell me that you’re not tired of worrying about your wife’s fidelity? Tell me you’re not tired of thinking about where your husband is? I challenge you to think the best of your spouse. Practice this every day.
Before you question your spouse whereabouts take a breather. Don’t ask. Give them a kiss instead. When they walk through the front door, hug them and kiss them. Stop the questions, stop the negative thoughts and maybe even the negative ads wil end on the internet.