Before You Break Up

Relationships get harder as time passes on and you learn more about each other as the months go by but at one point your relationship could end up on the brink of a breakup.

What sucks is some people will break up with someone without considering holding on and fighting through it.

Before You Break Up
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Giving up on a relationship is easy, fighting for your relationship is harder but that’s where the value in your relationship goes up.

The longer you last the more in value it goes up. Before you break up, consider a few things.

Time

Ask yourself, how long have you’ve been in this commitment? It could be a three-month-long relationship where now you stop putting up with pet peeves of the other person.

The first three months of any relationship begins with a bunch of physical attraction and a lot of time spent on getting to learn about each other.

After three months pass the little things end up getting to you and you don’t put up with the little nuisances like you did previously.

It could be six months long where now you get into reality of each other’s lives, schedules, families and money.

It could be over a year long where the excitement may have run dry if you haven’t kept up with it. At this point you may have lost the flame but it’s your choice to keep it going. Would you really want to start over again with someone else?

As for the couples who have years together in any relationship, it can be renewed and started over no matter how many years you’ve been together. You just got to want to do it.

Why

Most people break up because of a disagreement. It could be over light matters or serious decisions like religion, marriage, children, sex or money. The question is, do you have a valid reason to end the relationship or not?

Has your partner become more distant? How long have they been this way? Are you at fault for this new space between each other? Do you have any idea what the answer is to those questions?

 

You sit down and confront the disagreement, the dead space, the unsaid words. Whether it’s resolved or not is on the both of you. If you are wrong, apologize. If you are right, apologize. Figure it out.

Don’t throw away the years you put into a relationship just because you’re waiting for the other person to confront you. Let go of the bitterness and save your relationship.

Are you only mad at your partner?

Anger can have you do stupid things which is why you shouldn’t act or speak when you’re mad. Is your argument that serious? Can you give yourself time to calm down? Why are you really upset?

If you break up with someone every time you have an argument you won’t ever get married or have long or fulfilling relationships. Look, people aren’t perfect and neither are you. Don’t you want someone to put up with you for the rest of your life? Then it’s time you grow up and take a breather and start putting up with someone yourself.

Find out the true problem, listen to each other and don’t break up. Spark the love once again, choose to keep at it and don’t ever give up!

It happens, relationships can go stale especially when both people in the relationship stop working on the relationship.

We end working more hours, hanging out later and we can end up picking up a new job which can end up switching our hours at work but we must remember that we still have to maintain our relationship. The more money you make, the more leads you make, the more networking you do- what’s the point of it all?

Isn’t it to take your success and results to spend with the person you love?

If you went through so much with one person already, do they not deserve for you t fight for them?

They’ve already dealt with your worst and your best. Why would you throw them away so easily just because of a couple rough months?

I’m telling you there’s a light at the end of the tunnel. One of you has to stop adding to that tunnel. If you notice the issue, it’s your turn- your time to bring up the issue and begin rebuilding your relationship.

As for anyone in a new relationship, this is what it takes to make a longstanding relationship that can withstand many trials and tribulations.

Giving up on a relationship doesn’t create that. It destroys it.

As for the longterm married couple, I encourage you t keep trying. Don’t ever give up on your spouse. Pray for them, and breakthroughs will happen.

Yessenia Diaz has a background in graphic and web design but is also intrigued by writing and teaching. Yessenia created Tru.Works as an outlet for all her talents and continues collecting stories from around the world to share with people all across the interweb. Follow Yessenia on Instagram and her favorite, Twitter, @ythegreatdiaz.

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