Success happens to everyone who works hard for it at different rates. You can have two people shoot for the same goals but their work ethic, personality, and home responsibilities can determine when each person will receive their success. Because everyone works for their success differently and it’s strange to compare your success to someone else’s especially when we most likely don’t know what they had to do to reach their level.
Now, what happens if this person ends up being your spouse? If the successful person ends up being your spouse, you then know everything they did to accomplish their goals. When they begin to meet different people, receive opportunities and you realize have no leads it can be hard to feel as if you should continue to strive for what you want.
You’re a Team
When your partner wins, you win.
By that, I mean that any achievement he or she reaches it’s one foot through the door for the both of you. Any person they meet and network with is another opportunity for you to not only meet the same people but learn from them. Instead of looking at what they have done and comparing your results to theirs why not encourage them to keep going instead?
It’s always better to give your spouse an applause than to let jealousy and comparison enter your relationship. Before you say anything you’ll regret, control your mind and let out positive vibes.
Your Story is Different
Although you may feel as if you have gotten the short end of the stick, anyone who works and hones their craft will always receive recognition and awards for their practice but like I stated earlier it all happens at a different pace for everyone.
I’ll share an example out of my personal life where my husband wants to be an entertainer while I want to run a non-profit in the future. I have set the groundwork for my business and I chose, to begin with, blogging as a means for my audience to get to know me and my purpose on a personal level.
My husband attends auditions, rehearsals, and different entertainment events to showcase and show off his dance, and acting talent. My goal is to not only share myself but create a large business and hire many people to work alongside my mission. Our stories will be different because we have different ideas and aims.
Why We Compare
Although our goals are similar, we have goals in different fields. I can see myself attending government and professional events while my husband makes appearances to advertise movies and television shows. Currently, my husband creates more income than me and I can find myself feeling as if I’m not doing enough.
When I compare myself to my husband it’s usually about finances, the people he’s met and his social media accounts. While these factors are visible to me every day I also can see the hard work he puts into his craft. He deserves any and every accolade he recieves.
It’s actually okay to compare your success to other people and to learn from them. This includes your spouse. What is not okay is comparing your success to other people and then feeling down about it. This is one of my biggest challenges because sometimes I can feel as if I won’t be able to stand to next to my husband and feel like I’m someone important too.
This may be a selfish thing but I want my husband to be proud of the woman he’s married to. This makes sense to me, in other words, it’s as if I want to be known more than just being my husband’s wife but as someone who worked just as hard as him and was successful in my own thing.
The great thing about my husband is that he believes that I will be larger and more successful than he will ever be. that’s so encouraging to hear that from him. I’m glad that I can let out my feelings to him and feel great afterward. I hope that if at this point in your relationship that if you don’t feel like you can do this with your spouse yet that this article relieves you from feeling crazy and helps you feel more human.
In whatever you decide to do, keep doing it- you’ll always be rewarded for your hard work!
Yessenia Diaz has a background in graphic and web design but is also intrigued by writing and teaching. Yessenia created Tru.Works as an outlet for all her talents and continues collecting stories from around the world to share with people all across the interweb. Follow Yessenia on Instagram and her favorite, Twitter, @ythegreatdiaz.