Does Depression Come From Comparison?
You know I had a conversation where I was asked where I thought depression came from. I was silenced because I had never thought about this. Of course, whenever I get asked a question like that I like to apply the question to my life. I do that to see if I’ve experienced the question before I answer it. Does depression come from comparison? I know that in my case, I don’t compare my life to others because it does trigger me to become depressed.
Comparing your life to others on social media
Depression to me does happen when I compare myself to other people. The biggest thing that bothers me these days is the whole makeup craze. I have no idea how some of these girls can do some of the things they do with makeup. They look flawless and magical while my dry skin keeps me from having a glow and my pores just make my makeup look patchy. It’s annoying to me.
Then there are the girls that are fit. Now I’m fit but some girls have arms and abs that I can only imagine having for right now. It’s just so overwhelming to see perfect people all the time and think that you’re less than perfect. But, a lot of people forget that these people all started somewhere or are taking great pictures or videos with awesome lighting.
What you see may not be true online
Online, anyone can post anything. Anything can be edited. Today, peoples voices can be recorded and reordered to make celebrities say the craziest things. Some people do post unedited and unaltered images and videos yet it’s not always easy to tell if something is true n your timeline.
In some cases, the people you see in magazines, movies and even on YouTube all started their empire without much of a following. You won’t see their entire story unless you inquire about it.
Maybe Kendall Jenner had some help in her modeling career but for the most part, most people start their careers with nothing. Many in shape people begin their fitness career as out of shape people. Many businessmen had to take a loan out before they made any money from their business. There’s a beginning to every success story.
I know that in rare cases a lot of people are born beautiful. They have great figures and were born into a wealthy family. For the most part, everyone else has to work hard for what they want.
Even if this were never true, I just pretend it is. This is what I tell myself to keep me from thinking my own life is subpar to others. In New York City you will see extravagant people, beautiful girls who seem to have their lives together.
I just like to think that they worked hard for what they have and if I do the same I will one day have those nice things too.
How do I stop comparing myself to others?
There are moments or periods of days or weeks where I can focus on what I don’t have. Things that I want. Things that I saw other people with. But when I begin to focus on what I have then I begin to feel better and feel like I break the chains of depression. It’s been a year since I’ve had a bout of depression and it’s because of my new mentality.
When I imagine that the skinny, pretty, well dressed, and I could go on, women or men, had to work really hard for what they have I motivate myself to continue writing and meeting new people. I work out at least 4 to 5 days a week and try my hardest with Tru.Works every day. Lonerwolf has a whole article explaining how to get yourself to stop comparing your life to others.
Does depression come from comparison? I’m not really sure, but I do know that when I feel bad looking at posts online I switch my apps don’t stay on apps that depress me. Want more stories like this one? Check these out: