Look, it’s tough to find someone that you can even imagine sucking up being with “forever”. Sometimes you may feel as if any person will do but is that really good enough? Do you really just want to get with anyone?
There are so many losers out there. By losers, I mean losers who are selfish and mean people. They take advantage of you and use you and your heart to get everything they can out of you. They suck up attention, money, and time and in the end waste your life. Simply because they don’t want an actual relationship, they just want to feel loved. Do you have the wisdom to see this before it’s too late?
These people haven’t opened their eyes yet and it’s best for you to use wisdom and discern who is worth your time. Look, if you want to be with someone for fun then tell them and have “fun”. Don’t take advantage of someone who wants something more serious out of a relationship.
For the person who wants something more serious, don’t get with just anyone. Don’t marry just anyone. Just because he kind of acts like a gentleman does not mean you should marry him. Push him to be a complete gentleman and teach him how to be a husband. Just because she is alright and better than most girls does not mean you should settle.
Set your standard high. Shoot for the moon and if you land among the stars they can still head for the moon. Choose someone honest, faithful and loving. If your significant other has an attitude problem, tell them to change their face. Don’t be scared. Set your standard.
The only way to know if someone is truly a good fit for you or a genuine person is by taking time to get t know them. I don’t mean, a week, two months, or a year. I mean 3 years before finally committing to marriage.
The first three months of a relationship is a bunch of butterflies and you both try very hard not to hurt each other’s feelings during the beginning of your relationship.
Date your new interest for a year or so, get to know them and build memories with them. It’s only at this time that you get t truly assess someone and they get to determine who you are and your integrity as a person. Don’t rush a relationship purely out of feeling lonely.
If your standard is high for them than you should act with a high standard yourself as well. Let me explain this. If you want your woman or man to greet you when you come home from work then you should do the same with her. If you want your man to dress up or have better hygiene then you should too. Do not become a hypocrite.
Don’t be ridiculous and ask for things that are far out like, you have to kiss me every time I finish cooking or we have to have sex Monday, Wednesday, and Thursday. Be reasonable and forgive each other when you both mess up.
Finally, don’t settle for just anyone and have a low standard. Give yourself some type of worth and settle for a long time lover.
Your main goal when finding someone is to find someone with great relationship characteristics. They should be able to communicate with you clearly, be selfless for the most part, and listen to you.
You should also feel that if that person would so happen to lack in any of these qualities that you could be able to teach them and help them become a better person if they want to. That’s the most important piece, they must want to become a better person for you.
A person’s true intentions with you won’t show until time passes. Until the hard times come- until you can’t take them out because you’re broke, until you get pulled over for speeding, until your mother gets sick (God forbid), but it’s these events that showcase someone’s character.
Unless time passes, you have no idea who you’re dealing with. You only know what they tell you about themselves.
Your partner is a reflection of what you think you’re worth and how you see yourself.
It can be hard to find someone worth risking your life for. You would think it’d be easier with the advancement of social media and the internet but it actually brings about an obscurity.
While it will take some time finding the right mate, and them finding you, do not be discouraged. It’s better to take your time to find them later than to rush it and find jusanyonene.
In the meantime, have fun with your friends, try new things, and keep on being the best version of you that you can be.