Our spouses annoy us every day.
They do that one thing that makes us flip. It’s almost as if they keep on leaving clothes on the floor, forget to call you or purchase shoes without telling you on purpose. I’m talking about how the male mind works ladies.
At Tru.Works we’ve written about this topic several times and it seems that women don’t understand this concept yet: men want to feel like men all the time. They want respect. They even want respect before love. They don’t want to be undermined or looked down upon.
If you feel like complaining or telling your man what to do halt yourself before anything comes out of your mouth. Don’t speak to him as if he’s an idiot (we know what you’re going through) or badmouth his name to your friends and family but just keep your mouth shut.
Every time you undermine him you are pushing him farther away from you. The reason they do this is that they use their guy logic and believe if I don’t tell her where I’m going then she won’t complain because she won’t know.
If I do the dishes and put them in the wrong spot then she’ll complain so it’ll be better not to do them at all. If I walk the dogs too short then she’ll complain so let me not walk them, even though I lnow she’ll have something to say about that too. How about I just don’t go home and then there’s no complaining anymore.
Yes, I know their logic makes no sense. To us it would be easier to do exactly what we want and then you won’t hear us anymore but men don’t want to be told what to do especially in a negative and condescending manner.
The proper way to speak to your man is by calmly asking him to clean the dishes when he gets the chance and after he says alright, leave it be. If he never does it just do it yourself . One day which could be 3 years from now or 10 years from now he’ll realize he should do more. Most men won’t take that long.
Practice speaking with manners and respect for your man. Then you’ll see the change you’re looking for!
You will repeat things over and over again. Don’t get into a relationship expecting things to be a certain way. Every expectation is farther from the truth. In reality, you have a man that loves you but wants to relax. Especially after a long day at work.
That’s men for you.
Yessenia Diaz has a background in graphic and web design but is also intrigued by writing and teaching. Yessenia created Tru.Works as an outlet for all her talents and continues collecting stories from around the world to share with people all across the interweb. Follow Yessenia on Instagram and her favorite, Twitter, @ythegreatdiaz.