We realized that people nowadays aren’t sure how to be a boyfriend or girlfriend and can’t keep a boyfriend/girlfriend either. So this article is for the girls that don’t understand what it takes to be a girlfriend and keep your boyfriend around. This doesn’t mean you obsess over keeping your boyfriend or drive yourself crazy over these things. If you don’t want to do these things you don’t have to That’s your choice. You can keep guessing or take the advice and put yourself ahead in your relationship.
Boys are different than girls in many ways and the biggest mistake girls make is they assume boys should understand girls. Girls believe they’re being obvious about their emotions and our boyfriends should understand what we mean. Girls, we are crazy. We don’t even know what we want and need half the time. To expect your man to understand you is to expect you to completely understand him too. We are emotional creatures and our biggest problem is we believe that being emotional is okay and that letting our emotions control our lives is a woman’s right.
Our emotions are red flags that show us something is wrong in our minds and doesn’t mean we should cry or pour out our feelings on someone. We are to check ourselves. Boys have been forced by society to keep their emotions controlled and enjoy the freedom from their emotions. They don’t understand why women want to be controlled this way.
To keep a boyfriend ladies, you must practice controlling your crying, your extreme anger and sadness. It doesn’t mean we become robots but it means that we stop expelling our feelings on men and expect them to fix our problems for us. It’s your problem ,not his. See once you understand this concept and learn to control it then you will find a freedom where you can enjoy your boyfriend and begin to understand him.
Boys needs someone to hang out with and have fun. They don’t need a grumpy woman to ruin their fun. If you’re upset about something discuss it before you hang out, over text or over a phone call. Resolve the issue before you hang out. When you are out with your boyfriend enjoy the time you both have. Don’t bring your attitude to him. If you accidentally do bring your attitude and realize it. Apologize and take a few minutes to talk about your issue. Get over it quickly and have fun! If he enjoys movies, a sport or video games, try playing with him from time to time.Don’t get selfish and ruin his hobby for him.
Food is another way to keep your boyfriend happy. Obviously you don’t live together (maybe you do) for now but anytime he comes over try feeding him. Make sure your food tastes good. Men need to eat and will keep any woman around that can fill them up. At dinner is best to talk to your boyfriend about things that are on your mind. Stay controlled, don’t get so angry or cry over your problem. Discussing it calmly will help him feel invited to talk back and will draw him closer to you. Sometimes (especially around your period) you will cry, sometimes you will be angry and that’s okay. This article is for the girls who are way over the top. The best way to find out if you’re too emotional is by asking your boyfriend if you are or not.
Have your moment of emotion and move on. Don’t make it your whole day.
When your boyfriend comes over to eat you best believe he’s looking to see how clean your house and room is.While you’re dating he may not make a big deal about this at first but eventually the more serious the relationship gets your man will not be shy to tell you the house is a mess and wants it cleaned. This doesn’t mean we’re going back to the 5o’s but make sure to handle the chores and make clear his responsibilities. He may be the dishwasher and you may do the laundry. He won’t care as long as the house is clean.
You probably fell in love with your man because you love his passion for his goals. He may want to be a scientist, doctor or an actor. If he’s a great dancer let him know. Go to his events and congratulate him. Make sure he knows how sexy you think he is. Let him know he’s a great provider or thank him for finishing the laundry. Men love feeling appreciated. It’s better he looks for his compliments from you than another woman.
Another way you can make your boyfriend feel appreciated is by greeting him with a kiss and affection every time you meet up or anytime he comes home, especially from work. It’s the best feeling in the world to come home to your girlfriend and she misses you dearly.
Not only is greeting him when he comes home the best feeling in the world but if you look sexy he’ll love coming home to you. Make sure you look good anytime you go out or at home. When he starts to get comfortable it’s time to be comfy. Somedays you may not feel like getting fixed up, I suggest you push yourself to dress well but if you don’t dress up it doesn’t mean he’ll dump you or that you should feel like he would. He’ll enjoy seeing you comfortable if it’s once in a few weeks.
If you decide to do these things, don’t overwhelm yourself with everything. Take one step at a time. If there is one things you should always practice and keep practicing is controlling your emotions. You’ll get in less arguments and it’s not something you want to do to keep your man, but also do this for yourself. Men need respect and acting all crazy on them it makes them shut down and stay away from you. They rather do stay away than lash out on you.
Sometimes you both will share emotional moments like a sad movie, a family member passing, or your wedding. These are moments in when your emotions will be expressed and that’s okay, it’s a beautiful thing. Like I said, if you are driving your man crazy, if you find yourself unhappy everyday, angry, stressed or depressed all the time you have to control yourself. No one, especially no man, wants to deal with an out of control woman or man.
Please don’t feel as if you need to become a robot now. Your identity should not lie in your emotions but in Christ. Don’t shut yourself out and hide your emotions. We simply believe that we should all be able to control yourself and not let your emotions hurt someone over a lack of control over your words or actions.
I know this is a lot to take in but believe me, the How to Keep a Girlfriend article isn’t a short one either.