Shhh… Please keep this a secret, said someone at one time in your life. Yea, it’s a secret and almost everyone has 2. Do you?
The reason secrets are bad are 2 and it is an out of the box concept. Secrets have a lot of baggage and it doesn’t matter who you’re keeping it from but you’re always hurting 3 people. You, the one you’re telling it to and the one it is about (that could be you or someone else).
When people keep a secret is because there is something that they want to have hidden. It can be a surprise birthday party but how long can you hold that in? How long can you hold a secret in without it affecting your personality and emotions?
Secrets have us held down by chains. It doesn’t matter what it is but what matters is how long you can hold it in for. The longer you go you can see yourself get from the happy and excited lady pretending to have it all together to the bitter and angry nag that no one wants to be around.
Reason 2 is that when someone leans in to tell you something, you may feel special but actually you’re getting spun into their web of secrets. Holding someone else’s secret isn’t too bad but the person will likely come back and spit more onto you. Actually, it is bad because they’re weaving you deeper and deeper into their sticky web. Before you know it you have a lot to explain to a bunch of people.
When someone leans in to tell you a secret kindly stops them. They’re hiding other things and are liars. There’s no need to keep a secret. You hurt yourself, and the person it is about and the one you’re telling it to.
If you have a secret write it down and give it to your mom or someone that cares about you deeply. Don’t hold it in anymore!