Can you see yourself having a great day at the beach with a group of friends and when the night ends and you head to your car you see notice a yellow paper on your windshield. You just received a ticket for parking longer than allowed at the beach. You let it go and on your travel back home a tire blows out and let’s add that you’re nowhere near a gas station, you’re lost and if you don’t receive some type of help at that moment you may as well not go on with your life. It seems like the end is near.
When bad things come along they seem to bring more and more bad news with them. You can’t ever get enough bad news. It happens to everyone. It doesn’t matter how much money you get and how good of a person you think you are. It’ll happen to you when you least expect it.
I remember on my 8th-grade prom, I had a great time and came home to find that my hamster died. I had that hamster for 5 years and that was the end of her life. I had a wonderful time at prom with my friends and after my hamster died I thought, wow, Cinnamon (my hamster’s name) was suffering while I had fun.
To me, at age 13, my hamster’s death was the end of the world. Ten years later, I find that it hurt me that I couldn’t keep an animal alive but today, as I reflect, I realized that it was just a hamster and that she did have a time limit. Eventually, she was going to pass whether I cared for her well or not. I moved on from her death about a year after but not without paying my proper respects. I had a funeral for her and buried her in my backyard. May she rest in peace.
This example is probably silly to many of you but I share it because, in this moment that you’re living at now, you have no idea what’s going to happen to you. You have no idea where you’re going and if you’ll make it in this world alive or not. We live in our own time frame.
Think about it like this:
Imagine that you as you are now can return t your worst year of high school. You know what you knoow now and look the way you look now. Can you imagine the cnfidence you would have against your bullies, peers and teachers knowing what you know now.
If I could return back to high school, I would have enjoyed me teenage years more. I probably would have talked more and would try harder in gym class and refrain from being so shy!
We cannot return to the past.
Ever had a disagreement with someone and later when you’re in the shower you think of all the possible comebacks you could’ve used with that person? How I wish I thought or knew what I knew in the heat of an argument but it never works that way.
We live in our own timeframes. We live moment to moment as much as we plan for the future.
While bad things happen to you, it’s only at the moment. This bad time in your life will pass. It’ll be the past. You’ll get passed it.
I remember, in college, I used to freak out about handing in papers. Then I’d think:
I’m Yessenia Diaz. I get my papers done eventually. It’ll get done.
I thought outside of my feelings of stress and I eventually got my papers done. I just thought of myself in the future, with my paper printed and handed in to my professor.
Let’s say I’m at work and I’m annoyed of how slow time is passing by. I just imagine myself opening the door to my apartment and setting down my purse on the counter and relaxing. IT brings me such relief in the moment to know that I won’t be here forever. This moment of stress is not going to last me forever. It is going to pass.
Eventually, we will all pass and deal with death. It’s the circle of life. Would you rather have more good moments or stressful moments?
A lot of bad things can be avoided when you pay attention to your surroundings. In my first example, the parking ticket could’ve been avoided if you would have asked someone for the time limit on parking or read the signs around the beach about parking. The flat tire could have also been prevented if you had checked your tires and car before you left for your trip. Running out of gas could have also been avoided by putting gas in your vehicle before you hit your destination so that you won’t have to worry about it on your way back home.
There are a lot of bad things that happen to us because of our own actions. We can prevent them by double-checking our actions and choices before we make them.
Remember that in the moment when negative things happen to you can feel free knowing that this is going to pass. This negativity is just for the moment. You can learn from these events by asking yourself if there was a way to avoid the catastrophe you suffered today.
When I first got a car, I had found a parking spot around my block that was empty and decided to park overnight, I saw a sign over that parking spot and chose to not read it. When I went to my car the next morning, I had a three hundred dollar fine for parking in a handicap spot. I was angry but I was angry at myself. I chose to park there and ignore the sign.
Three hundred dollars down the drain.
In short, we humans live in the moment. But the choices we make at the moment will affect our individual future and the future of others who are close to us. We cannot return to the past. We have the ability t think about the past. When we think about the past it burdens us and bothers our minds a lot but we can learn from our past to better our future.
Imagining the future help us breathe and relax in the moment. It gets us out of our stress and brings us hope.
I like to imagine my future children and my possible home and travels. What do you like to imagine?