What Cesar Millan Has Taught Me

Cesar Millan, also known as the ‘Dog Whisperer’ and the best dog trainer in the world, wants more to be known as the best human trainer of the world.

Millan has an incredible story in which he traveled from Mexico, as an illegal immigrant to California, with the goal to be the best dog trainer in America. During his time while paying dues he had met his wife, fathered two sons, and began his work helping Hollywood’s elites with their dogs after he worked for groomers and did odd jobs in Los Angeles before.

Today, Millan is a New York Times best-selling author of several books, “Cesar’s Way”, “Cesar’s Rules”, and “How to Raise the Perfect Dog”. Milan also has many television shows, “The Dog Whisperer” and “Cesar 911” and sells his own products on his website, Cesar’s Way.

Today Cesar Millan is on a book tour for his new book, “Lesson’s From the Pack” where Millan’s goal is to share the lessons dogs has taught him along his travels. Mind you, Cesar has been through many hurdles in life including unexpected divorce, drug overdose, and losing millions of dollars due to bad business decisions but to Cesar Millan, “It’s not the successes, it’s when you go down and come back up.”

As a proud Cesar fan, I  have applied his teachings to my own dog and have found them to be quite useful and they actually work. My dog was wonderfully trained but I failed in one thing and that was to give him a job. I didn’t need my job to hunt, protect, or gather- I just wanted him to be my companion. This led to a confused dog when we were home.

I loved taking my dog hiking, walking, running errands, and enjoyed playing catch and having fun with my dog being a dog. We were quite close, as soon as I arrived home I wanted space from my dog as to fulfill my household chores and work on my small business which led me to feel guilty toward my dog. This led my dog to make some decisions on his own.

While I knew what I was doing and my dog knew me like no other, eventually I had to make the decision to give him up. It was time for me to move to New York City.

I gave up someone I loved out of selflessness because I knew that in New York City I would end up with no time for my dog. My dog, Abel, has taught me that I will be a very disciplined mother. I would still be an emotional person although Abel had helped me improve in keeping a calm state of mind, and Abel had also taught me how to be a leader.

I cried so much giving up my dog two years ago. To this day, I still think about him every day and can even imagine myself finding him once again.

This dog, helped me realize that I was actually an unstable emotional person. I had issues in wanting approval from people, feeling insecure, and I experienced my lack of confidence. It was Abel and Cesar’s teaching that pushed me to raise the best dog in my city- which I believe I did!

Abel and Cesar have taught me to be a leader. To me, this improvement was more obvious when I moved back to New York City. In earlier articles, I’ve shared that I moved to New York City twice. The first time I moved was for a period of 3 months. In those 3 months, I was who I was but today looking back I have found to speak up, stand up for myself, and give direction and lead.

I can only give credit to this behavior change to Cesar Millan and my dog Abel.

Abel gave me distance which helped me form decisions and respect toward his space. Abel exercised me and helped me have rest at night. Finally, Abel was affectionate. It’s hard for me to give affection, but Abel helped me become more affectionate and have empathy toward others. Abel disciplined me. He molded me to become the leader that I am today.

Giving up my dog lead me to work harder on Tru.Works. I do not want the decision to give my dog up to become I decision I made in vain. You see, Cesar has taught me more than “how to be great with dogs”. If anything Cesar Millan may have accidentally taught me how to be a calm, assertive leader.

I’ve learned that after Cesar’s teachings I have been looked to for advice, counsel, companionship, and direction. I have helped other leaders make decisions and improve their management habits.

I have found people come to me before they’re declared leaders for counseling and peace and I give this credit to Millan’s teachings.

The biggest of his teachings was on Cesar’s website, Cesar’s Way, where I inquired about becoming calm and assertive. You know, Cesar always said this but I had no idea how to act this way until I read his article on pack leadership techniques and he states:

Think of someone who inspires confidence in you- a parent or mentor; a famous leader or hero; even a fictional character. How do they carry themselves, and what in them inspires confidence in you? Now imagine that you are this character. Stand like they would stand. Move like they would move.

I imagined myself to be several people but one person I look up to was a very wise man and how he was, was what I wanted to be like. He is calm, assertive, wise, disciplined, and diligent. I practiced believing I was like him and it actually led me to eat better, learn how to cook better, be a better wife, a better ‘Christian’.

I am now more bold, courageous (I’ve begun to try new things), and humbled by what I’ve learned with Cesar. My marriage has bettered, my physical activity heightened, and my human relationships are respected more by me.

As a big fan of Cesar when I found that he would be launching a new book, I thought it was good for him and I was proud Cesar continued writing books about what he does but his new book was different than others. Titled, ” Lessons from the Pack”.  This book is different because instead of Cesar teaching us tips to bettering ourselves as dog owners he shares stories of what different dogs have taught him.

Two weeks ago, I learned Cesar was having a book signing event at the Strand Bookstore in Manhattan and I had to go. I had previously missed Joel Osteen but I was not going to let this opportunity to talk to Cesar pass me! I attended his event and I was shocked to see his tv personality is who he is in real life.

He was confident in his speech, and although his English was funny in some explanations he didn’t let that stop him from teaching his lessons to us. Cesar gave more than he needed by giving us extra lessons and letting us ask him questions. He was vibrant, funny, and chipper. He was happy to be there and happy to meet his fans. I loved listening to him and was starstruck when I saw him.

During the whole event, I only wanted to learn from Cesar and ask Cesar one question. When it was time t get my book signed I asked him what I wanted to know and that was, “With all your success I want to know what d do you see yourself doing now in the next 5 to 10 years”?

His answer was simply put,

I want to expand psychology centers around the world and to create courses to teach in universities around the world.

More power to you Cesar! I know you can accomplish anything and everything that you do. Push through the negative criticism and keep empowering people to be better leaders for their families and their dogs!

Yessenia Diaz has a background in graphic and web design but is also intrigued by writing and teaching. Yessenia created Tru.Works as an outlet for all her talents and continues collecting stories from around the world to share with people all across the interweb. Follow Yessenia on Instagram and her favorite, Twitter, @ythegreatdiaz.

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