Somedays you may catch yourself bored and feel lonely. You may be the type to be alone a lot and enjoy it but we all had those days where you start thinking about it and feel like you have to get out more.
Then, you try going out more and want to be alone again. You may actually start to miss your alone time and then you realize you’re alone once again. What’s the big deal?
Well, if you don’t keep your time balanced you may find yourself getting depressed about being alone too long and too much. You can get thoughts in your head that lead you to believe you’re not a fun person, or no one wants to be your friend. You may even persuade yourself to think that no one likes you.
You could also go overboard and spend all your time with new friends and people that are fun and different but eventually, you may find yourself getting annoyed by them or hate what you’re doing. It could be that you aren’t even acting yourself anymore.
Losing yourself in loneliness or giving your time away to people are the extreme ends of the scale of balance. To keep yourself balanced, stick with a couple friends. A good count is 5 but no more than the fingers on your hand. Make sure they are respectful of when you want to go home and won’t push you to do things you don’t want to. Those kind of people are not your friends.
If you feel deep down you want to be alone and tackle some errands for the day then do so. Any texts or calls asking to come hang out can be answered with a rain check.
Don’t ever feel like you have to do something you don’t want to and never feel guilty to hang out and meet new people.