Where do you Spend Your Time

Where do You Spend Your Time?
©Sven van der Plujim 2015

It’s important to know where you spend your time at. Where or what you spend your time on defines what you care about and what you’re invested in. This can solve any questions you have on if you spend enough time with your wife or husband, your children or too much time at work. If you have no idea what you care about, it’s probably something that you spend the most time at or with.

I found I spent most of my time at work, working n my business, the gym, and with my husband. When I really sat down and think about it I care very much about all 4 of these things. The job I have now is actually my fuel for my business. I get many ideas from the people I meet and experiences I have. My business is my future and my health is extremely important to me. None of these things are as important to me as the love of my life who I spend the least amount of time with but is my priority.

There are other small things I realized I spend time on and I enjoy taking time of my day to dance and listen to music. I enjoy eating and realized I’m not listening to scripture or reading the bible like I should be.

I find that to be dangerous.

I found interesting that I made time for working out at the gym, my business, and my husband. Work is a set schedule and anything else I do happens by chance.

What if I scheduled more time to read the bible or scheduled time help a friend out or surround myself with friends?

I say I want more friends, but I don’t make time for them. What’s up with that?

I want to have more knowledge f scripture but I don’t take the time to read the bible. I now see that my schedule is out of wack. I can say I care about other people and my beliefs but I don’t make time for those things like I intentionally do with the gym, my husband, and Tru.Works.

It’s not necessarily a bad thing to choose to make more time for some things than others just remember that what you have marked on your calendar is what you believe is more important to you.

This weekend, what do you have planned?

What are you doing tonight?

What did you make time for?

For those of us that are married, there are periods in our marriage where you don’t get to spend as much time with your spouse as you would like to. Do you know if that’s because you chose to spend your time with other people or things instead?

I find that when I’m listening to music and my husband is speaking to me I’m completely ignoring him. I love music and hate being a song I’m enjoying is interrupted. As stupid as that sounds it is completely true. I’m not the only bad example, I’ll throw my husband under the bus as well. My husband loves movies. If he wants to see it he will make a way to fit a movie in his schedule. Let me ask him a question during a movie, I am shunned for the rest of the hour and a half left if I interrupt his movie.

I find it funny, that we both have issues with choosing to give full attention and time for the things we love over each other. I mean, this man is my husband. There are women dying to spend time with their men while I’m listening to music and ignoring him while my jam is playing.

It sounds funny but I get mad when he ignores me while a movie is on. He gets mad whenI don’t listen to him and continue singing along to the lyrics of Rihanna’s Work song. I love that song!

What I’m trying to get at is that it’s hypocritical of me to want to spend more time with my husband but find in my schedule that he’s not a priority today. He will be a priority for me on Thursdays and Sundays. It goes both ways. In marriage, you both have to be leaning in and putting an effort to spend time with each other to actually be  other.

What if I planned to call my husband every day at 7:18pm?

Wouldn’t he feel important?

Getting back to be a better Christian, For 2 weeks I didn’t attend church gatherings. I let my calendar get out of control and forgot to pay tithes. I realized after we spent the tithe money that I didn’t pay tithes for the week. I was pretty upset but the. Again, it was my fault.

I let my calendar be up for grabs. Whatever wanted to fill my time did come in and take time up from me.

Sunday, I had the choice to go shopping with friends or go to church and it wasn’t until God smacked me upside the head with a reminder that in an hour the last service will take place and I won’t make it if I go downtown to shop with my friends. I let my husband know and he loves hanging out with friends but he and I both agreed that church was a more important commitment.

We’re both preparing now to be more responsible with our time, money and the people we hang around because we’re talking about starting a family soon.

We’re in no rush to have kids but we hope to stop cursing and to be better examples than we are now when we decide to have children.

Children are another thing that will take time up in my schedule. Right now I can’t imagine where the time for my future gremlins is going to fit in my already full schedule. It goes to show that you’ll never have a set calendar which means we all need to be managing our time wisely every day and not letting anything happen to us.

My husband is a perfect example of someone who has an open schedule and welcomes anything to fill it.

We’ve both come to realize that in some moments that is a great thing because he’s open to opportunity but in other ways this is dangerous because he may fill up his time with opportunity and have no time to spend on the finances or with his beautiful wife.

We are both guilty of choosing other things to do than spend time with each other but we both are only human. There’s no way that we can be perfect or think that we would not mess up in certain areas of our lives.

We know that when it comes to our calendars we may find dancing, and entertaining to be important but so is your spouse.

I know that there are single people reading this and thinking that this has nothing to do with them but if you’re struggling to handle your own calendar and want to be married, get your calendar together because managing 2 schedules is way harder than dealing with just yours.

What do you spend your time on? Could it be Facebook? Could it be video games or with the wrong people?

Maybe you spend your time dancing and might want to make it into an actual profession.

Wherever you spend your time, consider deciding if whatever you enjoy most is important or beneficial to you and your future in any way.

It looks like I’m going to have to get my pen and paper and figure out my schedule again before I let someone else fill it up themselves.

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