Why I Don’t Live a Life Entirely of My Own

Why I Don't Live a Life Entirely of My Own
©Joshua Earle 2016

There’s many that believe that finding our own happiness in life is the key to our daily fulfillment. I want to challenge this idea from a stance where in my life experience, although short, not lacking in mistakes and “challenges” where I’ve decided that living a life where I think of my own happiness first is a life I dare not try to live again.

People who live a life based off of their happiness are going off of their happiness level. Happiness is a feeling. In other words, if something makes them unhappy they will avoid taking part in what made them unhappy and move toward happier living experiences.

This makes sense for the most part but what about situations where we are met with “challenge”?

This is where that kind of happy thinking doesn’t work so well.

For instance, if I would have chosen to make a decision on my marriage based off of how I felt about my relationship- I would have signed divorce papers three times over. My husband is not always a source of happiness to me.

I’ve written time and time again about articles where making decisions based off of your feelings.

While in May, my husband and I have talked about divorce because of how unhappy we both were- we dropped the conversations and decided to act happy until we became happy again (obviously more to it than that). No divorce needed.

Another example I can give is waiting to grow my business and taking a pay cut to pursue my own company. I made $0 from Tru.Works in my first year of business. I wanted to quit. Today I make a little bit more but I’m not happy about it. I’ve made this decision knowing I won’t be happy about my income for a long time. That doesn’t mean I shouldn’t run Tru.Works at all. It means I have to suck up being unhappy about it for a couple years.

How about the example in which people choose to get involved with people based off of their feelings. You had no idea the guy who stole from you was a thief, especially knowing he had no income yet he could afford expensive items? This person may make you happy now but while you may decide to choose happiness today you may overlook looking into this person’s past, friends, and personality before you commit to them.

This happiness thing is leading many people to choose unchallenging careers, harmful relationships, and make negative money decisions that could have been prevented by taking a day or two to think about their options before they answered yes.

You wouldn’t sign a contract based off of your feelings. You would rationalize or ask someone for help.

In my experience, I’ve asked God for help in my life issues. I just feel like He has the best answer for me.

The goal toward your decision main should be long-term happiness, not short term. The credit card payment you’ll pay instead of saving up the money for a phone you’d like isn’t really the best decision- but you make the choice because you want the phone now, you want that happiness now.

Think about it.

Yessenia Diaz has a background in graphic and web design but is also intrigued by writing and teaching. Yessenia created Tru.Works as an outlet for all her talents and continues collecting stories from around the world to share with people all across the interweb. Follow Yessenia on Instagram and her favorite, Twitter, @ythegreatdiaz.

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