You may have been with your fiancé for years without a peep about your wedding plans. You may have beat around the bush with your boyfriend about getting married or you probably have met that one dude who will never get married.
How you found this man, beats me. But that’s your man.
See, there are only a few reasons a man won’t marry you. Engagement is not too big of a deal for some guys but to spend the rest of your life with one person forever is a very big deal to every man.
It’s a high standard to meet for men. They think about being a father, a husband and being able to support their future family. Most men can say they’re not able to do that. The problem is not necessarily that a man won’t commit. The problem is you.
See, women just don’t understand that being a girlfriend isn’t a big issue. having fiancée isn’t too bold either but having a wife is a really big deal. The idea that a man has to stick with someone for the rest of their life is scary and the reason for that is that they may not trust you completely.
Most men take their time to learn about you, understand your emotions, and personality but most women won’t take their time to learn about their man.
Men are easy to understand. They want to enjoy life. Women are emotional. We want to enjoy life too but in a different way. Maybe, he can deal with your attitude for now and in the back of his mind, he knows he can leave whenever you get too over the top.
Men know marriage doesn’t solve your attitude. You can ask for a ring all you want but if your attitude doesn’t change then you’ll be out of luck. You can have 3 kids to the man and marriage won’t come out of his mouth.
What kind of woman are you? What kind of woman does your man need you to be?
These are great questions with simple answers. A man has few needs but one of the needs they need to have fulfilled by their woman is comfort and trust.
Like women, men also need to be able to trust their future spouse and feel comfortable with her. You can be hot, fun to be around, and a good homemaker but if you have this one piece missing, they’ll distance themselves from you and also be unable to completely commit to you or feel hesitant for a long time to do so.
Men can marry a woman because he has to. You’ve been together too long. you both accidentally have gotten pregnant, and yet they’ll still go around cheating on you or have a distance with you. Although getting pregnant may be a shortcut to things, is it truly fulfilling to have a family where the mother and father are not entirely connected to each other?
So what can you do to squash the distance between you so that he can trust you?
Just be nice. There’s a moment in relationships where a couple’s been together for some time and the respect for each other can go downhill. You become critical, yell at each other, and even disrespect each other in public.
Although there’s love between you, to the other person these actions can lead to distance. While he may hide it or pretend it isn’t a big deal to him, it still hurts him inside. As tough as they seem, these men are big babies, that desire closeness, and gentleness with their spouse.
Why would I share my most intimate and weak mistakes that I’ve ever made if my girlfriend would usually get angry or criticize me as a weakling or a liar?
Women who are critical yet beautiful can be a challenge. They’re beautiful to look at but when they speak they make you feel bad about yourself.
Be careful with how you speak to your man. He can do things better that’s for sure but there’s a way to tell him without getting him angry. A critical woman is a red flag to a man because eventually, he will ail. He doesn’t need to be reminded of his failures, he needs to be supported through them. If you are this way, this is a red flag.
If you’re quick to respond to him, without letting him speak or without listening to his opinions, this is an obvious sign that when times get tough especially when financial hardships come that it’ll be hard to depend on you for insight and encouraging words.
These qualities that a lot of women have can be red flags for a man, They may consider postponing the wedding, or keeping you in the noncommittal stage
It’s time to mature as a woman, and I’m not saying he doesn’t need to also, but it’s time to bring out a better version of yourself.
You deserve to be married, you deserve commitment, and your significant other deserves it too. While he may be hesitant, in time things will get better and with practice in your communication and how you go about wanting things done from him, you’ll see yourselves get closer to each other most definitely.
To understand what you need to do to get a man to marry you, check out our article here: Do You Know the Needs of a Man?. Enjoying Tru.Works? Let us know, help us out and share our articles to spread the message.
Yessenia Diaz has a background in graphic and web design but is also intrigued by writing and teaching. Yessenia created Tru.Works as an outlet for all her talents and continues collecting stories from around the world to share with people all across the interweb. Follow Yessenia on Instagram and her favorite, Twitter, @ythegreatdiaz.