So many women believe that men communicate and understand them exactly the same way women understand and communicate with each other. They believe that men should understand what they mean or why we, women, are angry with them.
How many men have heard the good old saying:
You should know why I’m mad!
Unfortunately, too many men have heard this. They are left behind pondering for hours or days on what they could have possibly done to hurt you. Guessing will only get you angrier and so why even take a guess with this women? So until you say anything men have no idea why you’re mad at them and won’t take a chance to figure it out because your attitude is ridiculous.
Number 1: He doesn’t know why you are mad
Once you understand that he does not know why you’re mad at him and never will you can communicate with him better. Even if he may know why you’re mad at him he is not going to want to take a guess and so if you just suck it up and spill it then you can both move forward faster.
You can now have more patience and you can resolve problems faster when you tell him what’s wrong than just wait hours, days, and in some extreme cases months with no talking until he either gives up and moves on or in a rare event figures things out.
Don’t believe the last scenario will happen. It probably never will. Guys are straightforward yet polite when speaking about their issues. So make sure that you just tell him, in a respectful way so that you both can begin to solve your issues.
Number 2: Stop getting angry over little things
Stop making a big deal about little things. The dishes will get done, the laundry will get done, everything will get done. If you need help with a chore there’s a better way t ask for help than to just give hints that you need help.
Men need straightforward communication. Absolutely no beating around the bush. It’s annoying to them and they want to know the best way they can help you without having to work hard for it. They enjoying helping their woman and making them happy.
Choose to enjoy your day and brush things off. Yes, he may have done something insensitive but that doesn’t mean you should be angry about it. Learn and practice to calm down and talk about things without an attitude.
While men do stupid things, our reactions toward their stupid actions make a big difference. A calm woman, a kind woman, a slow to get angered woman- is a desirable woman. Because this is a woman who is dependable and that a man could trust.
Imagine if anytime you did something mad you got yelled at and wacked by someone. Now would you not the next time you made a mistake, would you not try to hide it or lie about it? This is our human instinct, our means of survival. This is instinct for a man.
Why would he tell you anything if you would yell at him for it. But if he can trust you with his mistakes, and be able to apologize to you, you will be the winner in the end.
Number 3: Stop being so wretched
Your attitude can make a man shut himself out or have him pour out his heart to you. If you’re always moody or angry you will find that your man will hide a lot of things from you. He can’t be his true self with you because you always have something to say. He wants to be respected and not judged all the time.
Criticism kills a man. If he always feels like a failure to you and around you he’ll steer clear of you as much as he can. He’ll love you from a distance in other words.
It’s hard, I know. Ladies, you need to calm down. It’ll take practice but you need to be calmer and forgive. Forgive him for not being so aware of your needs, but also do not deprive him of not telling him your needs.
This can take years of practice but it’ll be worth it. You won’t sweat the small things and your man will grow closer to you. The closeness you’ve always wanted starts with you.
Ladies, learn to calm down and to let your man breathe. If you have him walking on glass all the time, eventually he will move on. Men, teach your women these things so that she can understand you better.
Yessenia Diaz has a background in graphic and web design but is also intrigued by writing and teaching. Yessenia created Tru.Works as an outlet for all her talents and continues collecting stories from around the world to share with people all across the interweb. Follow Yessenia on Instagram and her favorite, Twitter, @ythegreatdiaz.