Have you ever felt like you couldn’t say no to someone? Do you have a hard time saying no to someone? Do you find it easier to please people by saying yes?
Did you ever feel like you were unable to tell someone no? It can be your mother, father, siblings, teacher, friends, partner, anyone for that matter.
Did you ever feel like you do things you don’t really want to do?
Let me guess, you’re probably a “yes” person. You say yes to make people shut up and to make them happy instead of saying what’s on your mind.
It doesn’t matter what is asked of you to do for someone you will answer yes to it all! My friend, no one has taught you how to say no and why it is important to know how to say no.
The word no is liberating. It gives you a choice to do something or not. You can deny drinks, refuse a kiss, and eat fewer calories. No, gives you choices and helps you be your own person.
If you’re uncomfortable going somewhere, that’s The Father (or your gut) telling you not to go.
Follow the voice in your head, not your heart.
If there’s someone bothering you to do something you don’t want to do practice saying no.
If there’s someone bothering you at all, say no and walk away from them.
Today, a lot of people struggle to make their yes mean yes and their no mean no. Keep it black and white with practice. If you’re uncomfortable, speak up and give a straight answer.
Remember that your no means no and you have to follow through with it.
When you say no to peer pressure you’ll most likely be made fun of until you say yes.
You may even have friends who respect your no. But as soon as you become wishy-washy with your answer and begin to change your mind your no will lose its respect.
The first time you let loose after you tell your friend no to a drink by actually taking the drink instead they won’t respect your no after that. They’ll keep pushing and pushing to get you to say yes.
People that answer yes to anything have a tendency to be taken advantage of and can end up as people pleasers.
Learn how to say no to become your own person and gain more respect for yourself and control over yourself. Learning how to say no to your friends, family, acquaintances, strangers, to food, addictions, anything and everything you can think of.
Practice saying no to food first and follow through with it. Purchase cookies and don’t allow yourself to have any. Let them get stale. That’s how you practice the power of no.
Go out to bars with friends and have a drink but say no to the second drink.
Block the website you can’t keep your eyes off of. Eventually, you won’t want it anymore and it won’t control you either.
Remember to have control of your own actions and follow through with your own wants and desires. You don’t have to sacrifice what you want to do simply because you can’t say no to someone.
When it comes to your friends you can tell who respect you as a person and who doesn’t simply by how they respect your yes. Again, if they don’t respect your no, then they probably don’t respect you as a human being.
Remember to surround yourself with people who respect you and that will push you to be a better person. The word no is important because it brings respect and boundaries to you as a person.
In due time, your no will bring good people into your life. They’ll fortify you and you’ll have the strength to say no in any situation. Keep practicing and you will surely be successful in becoming your own person and a better person at that.
Yessenia Diaz has a background in graphic and web design but is also intrigued by writing and teaching. Yessenia created Tru.Works as an outlet for all her talents and continues collecting stories from around the world to share with people all across the interweb. Follow Yessenia on Instagram and her favorite, Twitter, @ythegreatdiaz.