Jealousy can be fun. For a woman, it is a good feeling to see your man get a little jealous. We have a desire to want to be wanted by her man and jealousy gives us the satisfaction that is unexplainable. But unfortunately, Jealousy in relationships don’t really bring excitement to our relationships. Jealousy may actually bring uncertainty.
Now I am a culprit of trying to make my husband jealous. He is not a jealous type, he is trusting of me and is a calm person. But after eight years you can get bored and want to know if you still got it. Can I be the only one?
Obviously, I still have it if we’re still married but in any woman’s mind, it’s fun to change things up. The only problem with this is that it’s not the right thing to do. Bringing jealousy into your relationship, can bring about arguments, and tear down trust. Trust that was very hard to earn.
I have experience making my husband jealous
Making your spouse jealous to get attention or to spice your relationship up is not the right solution to fulfill your need for more attention. The correct solution is communication and letting your spouse know that you need it.
No one’s going to get it right on the first try and so while you may have told your spouse once, twice, three times it is just a reminder that in marriage there can be a lot of repetition until we get things right.
You don’t want a jealous husband. Or a jealous boyfriend. Do not bring up jealousy into your relationship. That can bring insecurity into your relationship. Insecurities and relationships can bring more issues up, then you may want.
It is better to try new things in your relationship than to try to provoke new things in your relationship.
Spice up your relationship in another healthier way
I’m suggestions of new things to try is taking a walk before bed, trying out a $20 date, catching a movie, playing a game, wearing something different, getting a makeover, or going out of town.
It doesn’t have to be a major difference, it just has to be something new.
I urge you to take a moment before trying to spark emotion out of your husband and let him know you want more attention. You may need more conversation and attention that doesn’t lead to sex.
Communicate with your spouse. Don’t let it go so long.
Tell him over and over nicely. If it doesn’t work it may be time to take a serious tone and state your opinion with an ultimatum.
Let me explain.
I’ve recently let my husband know I needed attention or I was going to get it somewhere else. He turned to me and listened and although it may not fix the problem forever, it really let him know what was going on in my head.
He’s working on it and I’m being patient with it.
Jealousy is not the solution. Don’t open that door. Communication is.
Yessenia is a compelling and innovative program and operations manager who uses her 5+ years of experience in operations management and graphic design to determine small business needs in the areas of inventory costs, labor expenses, P&L, COGs, marketing, and graphic design to create and manage profitable plans for small businesses and individual projects. She is the Owner and Founder of Tru.Works.