At Tru.Works we never suggest ending your relationship. You may be at the breaking point in your relationship where you’re questioning if this relationship is right for you anymore.
When you start questioning your relationship and realize that the other person is not able to understand you it can be stressful. There are multiple factors to why you may possibly want to end it with someone. Depending on how much time you both have been together and the personality of the other person it may be time to end things.
The title of this article is kind of a trick title because the answer to your question is you want to never break up. Now, if you’re going through an abusive relationship which could be abusive in many ways, then you need to get rid of the person you’re with because you’re more valuable than what they make you believe you are or treat you.
When you feel you need to end things with someone is because they don’t meet your needs anymore. As a man, you have 5 basic needs and some may be more important to you than others but they are important no matter what. To learn about your needs as a man click here and read: Do You Know the Needs of a Man?
Woman have their needs also and it could be that you don’t meet her needs either. You can read that article here: Do You Know the 5 Needs of a Woman? Once one of you begins to practice meeting the needs of your spouse the other can follow along. The reason they follow along is that they finally feel understood. But it takes one person.
Sadly people believe, “why should I do this for them if they won’t for me”? That’s the wrong mentality. What you should do is change your mind and think:
What can I do to make my spouse happy today?
This is the mentality you should have every day. No matter what your boyfriend does, no matter what your wife says or does. You have to learn to meet their needs.
It’s called selflessness. Practice it.
While it may have been a long time since you’ve connected in your relationship. It is totally possible to reconnect and find each other again. It is possible to meet in the middle when you both hate each other.
It just takes that one act of kindness. Whichever one of you two is reading this article should be the one to do that one act of kindness.
Whatever the problem may be kind words and actions can squash or make an argument less confrontational.
It just takes a moment of being nice to your partner.
My husband and I have argued over where to live, finances, sex, and anything in between including career, family, and pets. We have years of experience arguing with each other yet one of us always puts the flames out.
Whether it’s him or I it doesn’t matter someone stands up and apologizes.
Even if they believe they’re right. Being right is not as important as making your partner feel loved and important. That is why I will apologize to my husband for yelling at him,
I can be right about my idea, but if I yelled at him for it, I’m wrong. It’s crazy but after you apologize to each other the dust settles and you’re both able to take a breather and talk about things in a more calmer voice.
It’s then where you can try to work things out again or push it to the side until it needs to come up again. It’s not necessary to end a relationship over something you can’t fix right now.
It may mean that you need to both take a breather and go out and have fun without bringing up the topic that brings you both apart. Your other half may just need time to think about what to say or sort out their thoughts before they can have a full-fledged conversation about it with you.
For women, it may be hard to argue and set things to the side until the morning to discuss things more calmly and with a clear mind but it’ll save you a lot of headaches if you did.
Take a breather both of you, and wait until a better time to discuss things. it may be that you’re headed into a more deeper part of your relationship. I say don’t give up, and take it slow.